So far, it has worked wonderfully! Reports from the last couple days at school are glowing and Wm is even more agreeable at home! We took him on a marathon shopping trip to Costco this morning (usually ends in some sort of evilness) and he was GREAT the whole time. He is even now happily and agreeably napping upstairs. He has gone to bed with no fuss, eaten with no whining, and been, basically, a very easy little guy ever since. I think this may have had something to do with the fact that the elves who bring the legos to his advent calendar did not come the day after the hitting incident. I told Wm they are invisible and watch him ALL DAY EVERY DAY - even at school. That put the fear of Santa into him.
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
Apparently, Wm is Mr. Hyde at school (evil as could be) and Dr. Jekyll (sweet as pie) at home. We haven't been having any problems or really noticed anything weird, but early this week we got an email from his teacher that Wm is being super evil at school - calling everyone and everything "stupid." We DO NOT allow him to say "stupid" at home (anyone who knows me probably knows I have no problem with pretty much any word Wm says as long as it's not a "hate word" meant to make someone feel bad) because it's hurtful. But, I guess, at school, it was a whole different matter. Friends were stupid, toys were stupid, classroom activities were stupid. Then, Wm popped a friend in the ear for taking his book. So Wm had to have a stern talking to. In fact, I calmly told him that I was very angry and he was going to get a spanking. He freaked out (as would be expected). So I told him I was feeling angry, and if I reacted to my anger the same way he reacted to his, I would hit him - hence the spanking. He was most upset about that. I asked him how that made him feel when I said I was going to spank him and he said, "scared and sad." So I told him that I bet Alex felt pretty scared and sad after he hit him. Lots nodding and tears. So then I repeated that I was feeling very angry, but told him I was going to respond to that anger the same way he SHOULD have responded to that anger, and hopefully would the next time - by going to a quiet "calm down" place until I felt better. Lots of sniffling (and grateful head nodding when he realized that he was not really going to be spanked).
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